Find The Courage To Be Disliked

Embracing authenticity means living in alignment with your values and beliefs, regardless of others' opinions. Koga and Kishimi emphasize that true happiness comes from living a life true to oneself.

Surrender yourself by authentic people and follow their journey. It's often contagious!

Practical Tips:

• List your core values and reflect on how they guide your daily actions.

• Use online tools like the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) to better understand yourself.

Many fears of being disliked stem from early experiences, societal expectations, or an ingrained need for validation. According to The Courage to Be Disliked, much of our distress arises from interpersonal relationships and the mistaken belief that we need universal approval. oh yes, read that twice! 👈🙏

Think about it, if you were all alone on planet Earth since the very day of your birth, you would have never experience most fears including Fear of rejection. By whom would you have been rejected? Absolutely no one!😆

Fear of rejection often stems from a desire for approval and overcoming this low-vibrational feeling is crucial for personal freedom and self-acceptance as well as to access to realm of higher life-enhancing vibrations.

Practical Tips:

• Gradually expose yourself to situations where you might face rejection, starting with low-stakes scenarios.

• Reflect on moments when you’ve held back for fear of judgment.

• Journal about why others' opinions mattered to you and whether those opinions truly align with your values.

• Join forums or groups that offer support and encouragement in overcoming fear of rejection.

I have an Example here:

Consider a scenario where you hesitated to share your spiritual beliefs on social media. Was it because you feared being misunderstood? Recognizing this fear is the first step to dissolving its hold on you.

True courage is often born in moments of quiet reflection. Solitude provides space for self-reflection and growth. It allows us to understand our needs and desires without external influence, as highlighted by Koga and Kishimi.

Practical Tips:

>Easy ones:

• Dedicate 10 minutes daily to meditation or mindful breathing.

• Spend time in nature without devices to ground yourself.

>Harder one for Pros:

• Meditation Retreats! Attend a silent retreat to deepen your connection with yourself. If you don't have the money, don't find another excuse and do it in your home! If your family life is too busy and if you are a mom with demanding kiddos like me, head to a friend's house or at your mums and shut the f* up.😉😌

I've got an idea you can try:

Take a walk on the beach or sit under a tree with a shell in your hand, reflecting on its simplicity and strength as a metaphor for your own resilience. This works wonders with a rock, flower, crystal or a piece of jewel you particularly affectionates. I personaly love to admire crystals and flowers.

If there's one thing for you to take out of this book is this very concept: The Separation of tasks". This is incredibly simple to understand yet more difficult to concretely and permanently implement it in your life. Its essence resides in the act of separating your tasks from others. It’s not your responsibility to control how others perceive you, a situation, another person nor it is for you to force a behavior or willingness to do or not do a task—it’s theirs.🙌😎

Practical Tips:

• Practice detachment by reminding yourself: “Their opinions are not my task.”

• Start with small situations, like choosing an outfit you love without worrying about others’ opinions.

Read that Example:

Imagine forcing your lover to love you? Even if you love that person, your task is to love her. Simple. The other person's task is to accept your love and love you back or to reject it. Separation of talks completed with success (told you if was simple but not necessay easy)🫂 If you reading this and facing this, I feel you and know that I do love you.

Another common one:

Your colleague does not want to help more in that co-project? Girl, do your task, let him/her do his/her.

Emotional resilience involves managing emotions effectively, even in challenging situations. Koga and Kishimi emphasize the importance of resilience in facing dislike and criticism.

Practical Tips:

• Listen to specific Audios to rewire your brain like <those>

• Cultivate the art of letting go and pray, meditate or call upon any beings of lights you belive in. Leave it all onto their shoulders just like a newborn to his/her mother.❤️

• Have Compassion: Yes, have self-compassion for your inner-child and hurt version of you. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding.

• Use affirmations to build-up courage and stretch your resilience muscle: They are powerful tools for reprogramming the mind and releasing fears. Speak them aloud, write them down, or incorporate them into your daily routine.

Try affirmations like:

I am enough just as I am.

I release the need for external validation.

I am free to live authentically.

I am unconditionaly loved for exactly who I am with all the versions of my being.

• I personally listen to this Positive Affirmations audio every-single day upon waking up, when I take a walk, do the dishes or simply want to dis-connect and give myself an inner-hug: HERE

Building courage doesn’t happen overnight. It requires embracing challenges as opportunities to learn and evolve by accepting the pace of the process and taking small, consistent steps out of your comfort zone. Remember slow is best.

An additional boost-tool could be to find mentors. By surrounding yourself with courageous, authentic and embodied individuals it will help you embody the same energy.✨

Practical Tips:

• Each week, do one thing that scares you—like sharing your unfiltered opinion or trying something new in public.

• Reading Self-Help Books: Oh how I love book! Read books that promote a growth mindset, such as The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John Maxwell and How to do the Work by Dr Nicole Lepera or the classic How to influence and Win Friendsby Dale Carnegie.

• If you don't like to read this app can be a good alternative that I use and love too:Headway

• Sign-up for Self-help tools such as Mindvalleyand Masterclass. Two of my favorite platfrom with my heart titling a bit more towards Mindvalley❤️.

• Documentaries on Gaia.com are also magnificient for every self-growth

• Listen to podcasts from thought leaders like Brené Brown, Yolande Norris-Clark, very podcast from Kim Anami (not entirely on top of subject but she reveals a few truths that you will be able to extract from the whole episode).

The journey to finding the courage to be disliked is one of the most liberating paths you’ll ever take. It’s not about defiance or arrogance but about embracing your truth with grace and conviction.

Thought-Provoking Questions:

• What fears are holding you back from living authentically?

• In what ways can solitude and self-reflection contribute to your personal growth?

• What steps can you take today to overcome the fear of being alone?

• How can you start separating others’ tasks from your own?

True freedom lies in the courage to stand in your power, living authentically. Redefine success as alignment with your values rather than external approval is your golden star on your way to a authentic, pleasurable and fulfilling life on this plane of existence. 🌟

See you in my next Blog❤️🌸